The latest Vogue video starring Deepika Padukone has already created some upheaval in the social media and why it should not? After all it talks about one of the most sensitive and important subject in the country .As our honorable leader of opposition Mr.Rahul Gandhi says
“Our prime Concern is women empowerment”
Since time immemorial, various civilizations across the world have treated women as the weaker sex. From Chinese binding women’s feet to judge their beauty in 10th century to a super girl Malala Yousufzai being brutalized in 21st century for education. Women have seen the worst times.
I personally believe that human emotions are like a mechanical spring. “The external force might succeed in suppressing it for some time, but as soon as the spring gets a chance, it will bounce back and it will bounce back really hard and strong in an uncontrolled manner”
The modern women have started fighting for her rights and freedom and this is one of the brightest omens that we can witness today. But there is a fine difference that separates empowerment and armament.
When there are two lines of different lengths. There are two way to make the shorter one equal to the longer one.
First way is to address and fight for real issues like domestic violence against women, a girl’s right to choose and pursue her dream career, give her freedom to choose her life partner and having an equal say to come out of a toxic relationship with dignity, equal opportunity to rise at workplace based on skill and many more issues under the sun. It slowly but surely increases the length of the shorter line. This is empowerment or feminism for me. It can be worked out and accomplished mutually by both the sexes. It will help both the sexes develop mutual respect and love for each other.
The second way is to go out and blatantly shout “It’s my way or the highway”. I will oppose anything and everything that this stereotype patriarchal society opposes in order to establish my superiority and satisfy my false womanly ego. A fake freedom to prove that a woman also has the same rights to commit the same mistakes or sins that a man does. It shortens the longer line. This is sexism for me. It might promote equality but it will surely lead to a chaotic and unstable society. A society with mutual hatred and competitiveness.
Its Your Choice to choose which way you want to promote and achieve equality.
1.Its Your Choice to wear whatever you want
But I would personally choose not to wear a pair of my football shorts to my office because I feel it’s always decent to dress according to the occasion and the crowd until the crowd has slowly evolved enough over the years to accept the change. I would rather choose to dress classic and look suave than be raunchy.
2.It’s your choice to be size zero or size 15
But rather than flashing my bones or my beer belly I would rather choose to have a healthy body. Being healthy never hurts.
3.It’s your choice to have sex before the marriage or outside the marriage.
But I would personally choose to be loyal with someone whom I have vowed to be my life partner.I wont cheat on you because I know it will hurt me if you cheat on me.
4.It’s your choice to love temporarily or lust forever.
But I never met anyone who fell in love with someone with an intention to love temporarily, neither did I. Although the flames may smother down with time due to incompatibility, but you never chose to love temporarily, it just happened.
To lust forever??? Yes its your choice, but I am not really sure whether it will be your choice if you end up in a psychiatrist’s clinic, a sex rehabilitation center or in worst cases behind the bars.
5. It’s your choice to love a man or woman or both.
Nobody has a choice in it. It’s something as natural as being a left handed or right handed person. Just be mature enough to not hurt someone’s unconventional love inclinations.
6.Its your choice to come home at 4 in the morning.
Yes it is again your choice. But being a brother, father, friend or a lover, I will always be worried about your safety until unless I am assured that you are in a safe environment.
7. It’s your choice to have my baby or not
My 10th standard biology teacher taught me that sexual reproduction of human beings requires two opposite genders, so my common sense tells me that the decision to raise a baby or not should also involve both the people. Grammatically speaking, it’s not “your” baby, it should be our baby.
8. Your pleasure may be my pain; it’s still your choice
But as a human, if I know something that I do will cause you pain, I will choose not to do it or at least try my best to not rub your wounds. But again it’s still your choice.
Spider man 3 last Quote
“Whatever comes our way, whatever battle we have raging inside us, we always have a choice. My friend Harry taught me that. He chose to be the best of himself. It's the choices that make us who we are, and we can always choose to do what's right.”
Well to conclude, I know it still ain't the best time and women empowerment has to go a long way. But trust me, Chivalry ain't dead. There are still many gentlemen in the society, I have met a few and would love to be like them. Blaming every man won’t help the cause.
“It’s not a war of superiority, it’s a revolution for equality”